Should My Mom Really be Dating Right After Divorce?

Have you ever had that crazy, wild, immediate fall into love that overtakes you? My first online dating app experience turned into my first date in 16 years, which quickly turned into my first post-divorce relationship. She had that flirty, bold, confident assertiveness that makes my knees weak. Did I mention that she was beautiful? I was completely unprepared and felt dizzy for weeks. I had generally not been the falling fast type when I was younger.

My first serious relationship after my divorce was great. I decided not to wait too long before dating someone new. Many would say that is a.

My almost-ex-wife and I were sitting across from the Daley Center’s courthouse, about to finalize our divorce, when I told her I was seeing someone new. Chris, right? Earlier in the year, as we began to split, she and I went out to a bar where she accused me of being straight after a few beers. My new relationship with a man — queer as he was — suggested she was right. She called me when you put it up on Facebook and said, ‘You might want to know about this.

Taking the new relationship public was total trial-and-error, another entry to the long list of guidebooks I wish they had for divorced, pansexual somethings. It just seemed like there was nothing out there I could relate to. Though all of my friends said otherwise, I knew that I should have told her myself. We took a bunch of joyful selfies throughout the Village and posted them all over social media, the modern day equivalent of yelling from a mountaintop. A couple of months later, Chris and I hit an impasse when the pain of the divorce resurfaced.

It was a huge slice of humble pie served freezing cold. And, while thinking about him stings, the nutritious parts of my pain have been a wake-up call.